When a caregiver becomes frustrated, upset or angry at a crying baby, he or she may lose control and try shaking a baby to get him to calm down.
This video in English (above) and Spanish (below) explains what you can do to prevent shaken baby syndrome.
Read about shaken baby syndrome.
Crying is your baby's way of telling you she needs some help. She is trying to tell you she is hungry, tired, cold, hot, uncomfortable, bored or lonesome.
You may feel you are not being a good parent because you can't figure out what your baby wants right away. However, you are being a good parent by trying different things.
You can't spoil your baby by meeting her needs. You are helping her feel secure and loved. Babies who are carried and attended to quickly cry less than babies who only get attention when they cry.
As your baby gets older you will be better able to figure out what she needs. She will also begin to cry less as she learns you will respond to her cries.
At times you may feel overwhelmed by your baby's crying. That can make you want to cry.
It can also be frustrating that what works one time to settle your baby may not work the next. Try the things that have worked before, one at a time. Then try some of the ideas from the list below.
When your baby cries, try to figure out her cues. Is your baby tired, hungry, in pain, bored or overwhelmed? Try feeding, burping, changing her diaper, adding clothes for warmth or taking them off if your baby is too warm.
If your baby still cries, try:
Sometimes babies have pent-up energy and cry to get rid of it.
If nothing seems to be working, try placing your baby on her back in the crib. See if she can settle herself. (This will also give you a chance to settle down and calm yourself.)
Check on your baby every three to five minutes. If she continues to cry after 30 minutes of this, call your doctor’s office. Consider asking a family member or friend to hold your baby and try to settle her.
The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) advises that parents be cautious when using infant slings for babies younger than four months old.
A baby can stop breathing and die if his face is covered, if the baby is hunched with his chin touching his chest, if the baby is too low, or the baby's face is pressed tight against the fabric of the sling.
While your baby tries to settle, you can:
If you find yourself getting angry or feeling overwhelmed, put your baby safely in her crib. Go to another room for five to 10 minutes. Ask for help from your partner, a relative or friend. Or, call a crisis nursery located near you, or call the Crisis Connection (crisis.org) at 612-379-6363.
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Shaken baby syndrome is a type of brain injury caused by violently shaking a baby. Shaking causes a baby's brain to bounce back and forth in the skull.
Don't ever shake your baby to try to quiet crying. Call 911 if you think a caregiver is abusing your baby.
Shaking a baby—even for as little as five seconds—can cause:
Symptoms of shaken baby syndrome depend on how hard the baby was shaken and for how long. Symptoms include:
Important: You can't cause shaken baby syndrome by gently bouncing your baby, playfully tossing him in the air, jogging with him, or putting him in a bouncer, swing or other motion type of baby equipment.
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Try the "colic curl" for a fussy baby.
Cradle your baby facing away from you with legs bent up in your hands.
Cradle your baby facing you with legs bent up against your chest.