Because each pregnancy is unique, you will have some familiar experiences as well as new ones.
You can help your older child adjust to having a baby brother or sister. Listen to what your child is thinking and acknowledge his feelings. Answer his questions simply yet fully. Keep your messages easy for him to understand. This will help your child feel secure and comforted.
There are many good children's books written about adding a baby to the family. You can borrow books from the library or buy a couple on a special trip to a bookstore. Read them at bedtime or other cuddly times.
Here are some good messages to send to your older child:
If you are worried about not paying enough attention to your baby, spend five minutes a day talking to her. You can talk aloud or in your head.
Tell your baby about the day, describe a family member, talk about your hopes for her. Doing this when you go to bed can be a relaxing way to end the day.
Allina Health's Patient Education Department, Beginnings: Pregnancy, Birth and Beyond, seventh edition, ob-ah-90026
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