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After the Flowers: Life beyond Widowhoodby Alice Grossman Daniels; Fithian Press (1996). Lively and candid, a warm collection of essays—has both humor and heart.
Being a Widowby Lynn Caine; Penguin Books (1989). Practical advice regarding loneliness, stress, depression, legal and financial problems, re-emerging sexuality, dreams and more.
The Death of a Wife: Reflections for a Grieving Husband (Comfort After a Loss)by Robert Vogt (1997). "Dr. Rando's book should help anyone who has survived the pain of this kind of loss and is trying to adjust to a new world without his loved one." – Art Linkletter review
Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Diesby Marta Felber (2000). This book presents a guide for coping with the practical issues that face the recently widowed as they struggle through the grieving process.
Four Funerals and a Weddingby Jill Smolowe
Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouseby Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, Robert C. De Vries (1998). Coming alongside the grieving spouse, psychologist Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge and pastor/professor Robert De Vries provide much-needed support from a unique perspective--empathy. They each suffered the loss of their spouse at a relatively young age. Throughout Getting to the Other Side of Grief, the authors share their stories as living proof that if worked through properly, grief will lead the way to a fresh new life.
A Grace Disguisedby Jerry Sittser
Grief Expressed: When a Mate Diesby Marta Felber; Fairview Press (2002). Author is both a widow and counselor. Trees are used as a metaphor and employs gentle exercises for the reader to discover their own strengths.
A Handbook for Widowersby Ed Ames (2004). A helpful book for widowers. Talks to men openly and honestly about tears, guilt, feelings of anger, depression, isolation and loneliness. Also talks about your health, your job and other money matters, living alone and what to do with her things.
The Healing Power of Love: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Loveby Gloria Lintermans and Marilyn Stolzman (2006). A collection of twelve beautifully and honestly told, uplifting and inspirational stories of new, loving relationships following the loss of a spouse or partner.
How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Diesby Therese Rando (1991).
Instantly a Widowby Ruth Sissom; Discovery House Publishers (1990). Christian perspective on surviving and recovering from the sudden loss of a spouse.
The Light at the End of the Tunnel: Coming Back to Life After a Spouse Diesby Mary Ward Menke (2006). The Light at the End of the Tunnel is written by survivors for survivors with the two-fold purpose of encouraging those who have "been there, done that" to help themselves while helping others and to show the newly bereaved that there is no single right way to grieve.
Living Again : A Personal Journey For Surviving the Loss of a Spouseby William Wallace (2002). A guide to surviving the loss of a mate with practical exercises to gain greater insight into this agonizing, yet necessary personal journey.
Loss and Found: How We Survived the Loss of a Young Spouseby Gary Young and Kathy Young; Calabash Press (2001). Written by young widowed people, out of their own experiences of loss and then creating a blended family of seven.
The Loss of a Life Partnerby Carolyn Ambler Walter (2003). Walter offers 22 stories of individuals whose life partner died, presenting them against a tapestry of bereavement theories and issues. The widows and widowers describe the challenges of reframing their identity and life; particularly powerful are narratives and experiences of gay men and lesbians, because as disenfranchised grievers they lack the access to the legal benefits, supports, and social rituals of mourning.
Lost My Partner – What’ll I Do? A Practical Guide for Coping and Finding Strength When Your Spouse Diesby Laurie J. Spector (2006). A clear, compassionate guide with practical, powerful advice for moving from grief to gain. The revised edition adds even more outstanding advice to an already fabulous book.
Moving Forward on Your Own: A Financial Guidebook for Widowsby Kathleen Rehl (practical advice)
No Saints Around Hereby Susan Allen Toth (also about caregiving for a spouse)
On the Road: Surviving the Loss of a Spouseby Sheryl Garrett (2006). These straightforward guides… are confidence-building resources in situations that could otherwise be a tangled money maze.
Remembering with Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyondby Elizabeth Levang (Ph.D.) and Sherokee Ilse; Fairview Press (1996). Over 300 short, inspirational messages of hope to bereaved persons (not limited to widows).
Saturday Night Widowsby Becky Aikman
Surviving Grief…and Learning to Live Againby Catherine M. Sanders; Wiley (1992). Both therapist and bereaved person, Catherine writes about five phases of grief: shock, awareness of loss, conversation and the need to withdraw, healing and renewal. Also discusses different losses and factors that impact grief such as gender, age, religion, etc.
Surviving Widowhoodby Esther Goshen-Gottstein; Gefen Books (2002). An honest, exquisitely written, personal account of emerging from darkness to light.
The Tender Scar: Life After the Death of a Spouseby Richard L. Mabry (2006). It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups.
Waking Up Alone: Grief & Healingby Julie K. Cicero (2007). Surviving the death of a spouse/companion: Whether your loss was sudden or anticipated, your relationship brief or long-term, everyone's experience with grief is different. Recognizing and understanding the varied pathways of grief is crucial to your healing process.
When Your Spouse Dies: A concise and Practical Source of Help and Adviceby Cathleen L. Curry (1990). This book deals with a variety of practical concerns for those who have lost their mates to death, including stages of grief for adults and children, mourning, loneliness, sexuality, networks of support, financial priorities and planning, good health practices, and healing.
When Your Spouse Dies (Hope & Healing Series)by Mildred Tengbom (2002). In this helpful volume, Mildred Tengbom addresses the emotions and difficulties widows and widowers face as they look ahead to life without their spouses. She offers comfort and hope for the days and weeks following the death of a spouse.
Widowby Michelle Latiolais
Widow to Widow: Thoughtful Practical ideas for Rebuilding Your Lifeby Genevieve Davis Ginsburg (1997). Writing from her own experience, frankly honest, dispels myths and timetables, encourages individual response.
Widowedby Joyce Dr. Brothers; Ballantine Books (1992). The TV personality writes about her own widowhood.
The Widowed Self: the Older Woman's Journey through Widowhoodby Deborah Kestin Van Den Hoonaard; Wilfrid Laurier University Press (2000). Writer is a professor of Gerontology. She uses an autobiographical technique to present both a scholarly and narrative commentary on a widowed woman’s relationships.
Widower: When Men are Left Aloneby Scott Campbell with Phyllis R. Silverman, Ph.D (1987). A journalist and a social worker explore the grief process as men experience it. The book contains the oral histories of twenty men, ranging in age from 30 to 94, who have lost their wives to a range of causes including cancer, alcohol, murder, and suicide.
(Suggested by the Young Widowed Grief Support Program Facilitators)
A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss While Others are Celebrating by Harold Ivan Smith
Does anybody else hurt this bad...and live? by Carlene Vester Eneroth
Don't Take My Grief Away: What to Do When You Lose a Loved One by Doug Manning
Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies by Marta Felber
Grief: A Natural Reaction To Loss by Marge Eaton Heegaard
Healing a Spouse's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Husband or Wife Dies by Alan D.Wolfelt
How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies by Therese A. Rando
I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Cope and Heal by Linda Feinberg
Loss and Found: How We Survived the Loss of a Young Spouse by Gary Young
Love Letters; Reflections on Living With Loss by Andris A. Baltins
Mom Minus Dad by Jamieson Haverkampf
The Remembering With Love Journal: A Companion the First Year of Grieving and Beyond by Elizabeth Levang
Starting from Scratch When You're Single Again by Sharon M. Knudson and Mary Fran Heitzman
A Time to Say Good-Bye: Moving Beyond Loss by Mary McClure Goulding
Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart by Alan D. Wolfelt
Waking Up Alone: Grief & Healing by Julie Cicero
When a Man Faces Grief / A Man You Know Is Grieving by James E. Miller and Thomas Golden
When Will I Stop Hurting? Dealing with a Recent Death by June Cerza Kolf
Widow To Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas For Rebuilding Your Life by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg
Widowed by Joyce Brothers
Widowed Too Soon: A Young Widow's Journey through Grief, Healing, and Spiritual Transformation, Second Edition by Laura Hirsch
Widows Wear Stilettos: A Practical and Emotional Guide for the Young Widow by Carole Brody Fleet and Syd Harriet
Allina Health Grief Resources
Judy Young, M Ed, manager of education and bereavement, Allina Health Home Care Services