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Suggested books:Grief/Death of a parent (adult child)

You may find these and other excellent grief resources at your local library or bookstore.

Death of a Parent: Transitions to a New Adult Identity
By Debra Umberson, 2006.
Umberson comes to some truly illuminating conclusions ... This clear insightful study provides a unique combination of research-based self-help and scholarly enterprise.

Finding Your Way after Your Parent Dies: Hope for Grieving Adults
By Richard Gilbert; September, 1999.
This compassionate guide is for those struggling with the loss of a parent. Offers practical suggestions for navigating these difficulties.

How to Survive the Loss of a Parent
By Ackner & Whitney; Harper Paperbacks, November, 1994.
Written for adults who are mourning the loss of a parent, this book attempts to help survivors understand how the parental relationship influenced other aspects of their lives.

Losing a Parent: Passage to a New way of Living
By Alexandra Kennedy, 1991.
Kennedy shares her own story of facing the loss of a parent and offers innovative strategies for healing and transformation.

The Orphaned Adult: Confronting the Death of a Parent
By Marc D. Angel, 1997.
In this compassionate work, Rabbi Marc Angel addresses a universal but largely overlooked phenomenon: adult orphanhood. This book presents a thoughtful discussion of the processes of adult orphanhood, including anticipating the death of a parent, mourning the parent, and internalizing the reality of the parent's death.

The Orphaned Adult: Understanding and Coping with Grief and Change after the Death of Our Parents
By Alexander Levy, 2000.
Incorporating his own personal experience with the accounts of others who have lost their parents, psychologist Levy examines this profound life-changing event with compassion and understanding.

Recovering From the Loss of a Parent
By Katherine Donnelly, 2001.
However you choose to cope—through private, inner searching or sharing your feelings with others—this book is a companion through the process of understanding and accepting your loss.

She Loved Me, She Loved Me Not: Adult Parent Loss after a Conflicted Relationship
By Linda J Converse, 2001.

Forgiving Our Parents, Forgiving Ourselves: Healing Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
By David A. Stoop, 2004.
Drs. Stoop and Masteller believe you can move beyond failure to forgiveness, cancelling the indebtedness of those who have hurt you. But before you can begin the process of forgiveness, you need to understand the roots of your pain, through exploring the family patterns that perpetuate dysfunction. When you understand your family of origin, you will be able to take the essential step of forgiveness.

When Parents Die: A Guide for Adults
By Edward Myers, 1997.
Offers practical information and reassurance.

Losing a Parent: Practical Help for You and Other Family Members
By Fiona Marshall, 2004.
In Losing a Parent, Fiona Marshall helps readers understand the process of coping with a parent's death, from preparing for death to recognizing the different stages of grief, from nurturing the relationship with the surviving parent to harnessing new strength to carry on with life.

Nobody’s Child Anymore: Grieving, Caring and Comforting When Parents Die
By Barbara Barticci; Sorin Books, October, 2000.
Stories from the author’s own experience of mourning the loss of two parents, as well as dozens of other stories. She leads us through four stages that most adults experience at some time: caring for a dying parent, mourning the loss, caring for the parent left behind, and finding new meaning beyond grief.

Midlife Orphan
By Jane Brooks, 1999.
The word "orphan" may make us think of a child--but even self-sufficient adults can feel the pain of "orphanhood" when their parents are suddenly gone. Complicating the natural mourning process is the fact that this loss often occurs in our thirties, forties, or fifties--as we are raising our own children, watching them leave the nest, and facing other adjustments in our lives, from our jobs to our marriages to our health.

Healing the Adult Child’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas after Your Parent Dies
By Alan D. Wolfelt, 2002.
Offering heartfelt and simple advice, this book provides realistic suggestions and relief for an adult child whose parent has died. Practical advice is presented in a one-topic-per-page format that does not overwhelm with psychological language, but provides small, immediate ways to understand and reconcile grief.

Losing Your Parents, Finding Yourself: The Defining Turning Point of Adult Life
By Victoria Secunda, 2001.
Drawing on her survey of 94 people, Secunda explores how adult orphans gradually give up their old childish identity and discover their true adult selves in terms of their relationships with siblings, children, and friends.

Living in the Shadow if the Ghosts of Grief
By Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D, 2007.
Explaining how multitudes of North Americans are carrying the pain of all types of loss—not just the deaths of loved ones but also the loss of a spouse through divorce, children who leave home, and the decline of health as they age or get sick—this balanced resource empowers mourners and grief counselors to turn grief into an experience to be learned from.

Fatherloss: How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms with the Death of their Dad
By Neil Chethik, 2001.
FatherLoss features up-close-and-personal profiles of father-son relationships, drawing on the author's national survey of 300 men and interviews with 70 others. Grieving, Chethik says, is part of the unique relationship between sons and fathers; it is highly subjective and dependent on the son's age at the time of his father's death.

Grieving the Death of a Mother
By Harold Ivan Smith; Augsburg Fortress Publishers, February, 2003.
A mother’s death can make a shambles of schedules, priorities, agendas, commitments, and, sometimes, even our most important relationships. A mother’s last breath inevitably changes us. Drawing on his own experience of loss, as well as those of others, Harold Ivan Smith guides readers through their grief, from the process of dying through the acts of remembering and honoring a mother after her death.

In My Mother’s Kitchen : An Introduction to the Healing Power of Reminiscence
By Robin A. Edgar; Tree House Enterprises, June, 2003.
An introduction to the healing power of reminiscence, In My Mother's Kitchen focuses on the steps to recalling; recording and celebrating the significant memories that help the participant recognize and value the individuals and incidents that shaped their lives.

On Love Alone: Words to Heal on the Death of a Father
By Jonathon Lazear; Conari Press, March, 2006.
On Love Alone is the tranquil place you’ve been looking for. It is a heartfelt collection of quotes, poems, and passages. On Love Alone is a book to give to others when a simple card is not enough.

In the Letting Go: Words to Heal the Heart on the Death of a Mother.
By Jonathon Lazear; Conari Press, March, 2006.
When a mother dies, often the center of the family is gone. The holiday rituals, the special birthday celebrations for children and grandchildren—the memories are often held by the mother. A mother is a caretaker, a best friend, a source of sage-like wisdom. Losing her can be a traumatic experience. It is a space where you are invited to discover solace through the experiences and feelings of others—simple or profound.

Always Too Soon
by Allison Gilbert
It is a compilation of about 20 peoples stories who have lost both parents.


 

 

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