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Suggested books: Spouseloss

Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse
By Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, Robert C. De Vries (1998).
Coming alongside the grieving spouse, psychologist Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge and pastor/professor Robert De Vries provide much-needed support from a unique perspective--empathy. They each suffered the loss of their spouse at a relatively young age. Throughout Getting to the Other Side of Grief, the authors share their stories as living proof that if worked through properly, grief will lead the way to a fresh new life.

Living Again : A Personal Journey For Surviving the Loss of a Spouse
By William Wallace (2002).
A guide to surviving the loss of a mate with practical exercises to gain greater insight into this agonizing, yet necessary personal journey.

Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies
By Marta Felber (2000).
This book presents a guide for coping with the practical issues that face the recently widowed as they struggle through the grieving process.

How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies
By Therese Rando (1991).

The Death of a Wife: Reflections for a Grieving Husband (Comfort After a Loss)
By Robert Vogt (1997).
"Dr. Rando's book should help anyone who has survived the pain of this kind of loss and is trying to adjust to a new world without his loved one."--Art Linkletter -- Review

A Handbook for Widowers
By Ed Ames (2004).
A helpful book for widowers. Talks to men openly and honestly about tears, guilt, feelings of anger, depression, isolation and loneliness. Also talks about your health, your job and other money matters, living alone and what to do with her things.

The Tender Scar: Life After the Death of a Spouse
By Richard L. Mabry (2006).
It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups.

The Light at the End of the Tunnel: Coming Back to Life After a Spouse Dies
By Mary Ward Menke (2006).
The Light at the End of the Tunnel is written by survivors for survivors with the two-fold purpose of encouraging those who have "been there, done that" to help themselves while helping others and to show the newly bereaved that there is no single right way to grieve.

When Your Spouse Dies (Hope & Healing Series)
By Mildred Tengbom (2002).
In this helpful volume, Mildred Tengbom addresses the emotions and difficulties widows and widowers face as they look ahead to life without their spouses. She offers comfort and hope for the days and weeks following the death of a spouse.

Waking Up Alone: Grief & Healing
By Julie K. Cicero (2007).
Surviving the death of a spouse/companion: Whether your loss was sudden or anticipated, your relationship brief or long-term, everyone's experience with grief is different. Recognizing and understanding the varied pathways of grief is crucial to your healing process.

On the Road: Surviving the Loss of a Spouse
By Sheryl Garrett (2006).
These straightforward guides… are confidence-building resources in situations that could otherwise be a tangled money maze.

Lost My Partner – What’ll I Do? A Practical Guide for Coping and Finding Strength When Your Spouse Dies
By Laurie J. Spector (2006).
A clear, compassionate guide with practical, powerful advice for moving from grief to gain. The revised edition adds even more outstanding advice to an already fabulous book.

When Your Spouse Dies: A concise and Practical Source of Help and Advice
By Cathleen L. Curry (1990).
This book deals with a variety of practical concerns for those who have lost their mates to death, including stages of grief for adults and children, mourning, loneliness, sexuality, networks of support, financial priorities and planning, good health practices, and healing.

The Healing Power of Love: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love
By Cloria Lintermans and Marilyn Stolzman (2006).
A collection of twelve beautifully and honestly told, uplifting and inspirational stories of new, loving relationships following the loss of a spouse or partner.

The Loss of a Life Partner
By Carolyn Ambler Walter (2003).
Walter offers 22 stories of individuals whose life partner died, presenting them against a tapestry of bereavement theories and issues. The widows and widowers describe the challenges of reframing their identity and life; particularly powerful are narratives and experiences of gay men and lesbians, because as disenfranchised grievers they lack the access to the legal benefits, supports, and social rituals of mourning.

Widower: When Men are Left Alone
By Scott Campbell with Phyllis R. Silverman, Ph.D (1987).
A journalist and a social worker explore the grief process as men experience it. The book contains the oral histories of twenty men, ranging in age from 30 to 94, who have lost their wives to a range of causes including cancer, alcohol, murder, and suicide.

Widow to Widow: Thoughtful Practical ideas for Rebuilding Your Life
By Genevieve Davis Ginsburg (1997).
Writing from her own experience, frankly honest, dispels myths and timetables, encourages individual response.

Remembering with Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond
By Elizabeth Levang (Ph.D.) and Sherokee Ilse; Fairview Press (1996).
Over 300 short, inspirational messages of hope to bereaved persons (not limited to widows).

Grief Expressed: When a Mate Dies
By Marta Felber; Fairview Press (2002).
Author is both a widow and counselor. Trees are used as a metaphor and employs gentle exercises for the reader to discover their own strengths.

By Joyce Dr. Brothers; Ballantine Books (1992).
The TV personality writes about her own widowhood.

Being a Widow
By Lynn Caine; Penguin Books (1989).
Practical advice re: loneliness, stress, depression, legal and financial problems, re-emerging sexuality, dreams and more.

Instantly a Widow
By Ruth Sisson; Discovery House Publishers (1990).
Christian perspective on surviving and recovering from the sudden loss of a spouse.

Surviving Grief…and Learning to Live Again
By Catherine M. Sanders; Wiley (1992).
Both therapist and bereaved person, Catherine writes about five phases of grief: shock, awareness of loss, conversation and the need to withdraw, healing and renewal. Also discusses different losses and factors that impact grief such as gender, age, religion, etc.

After the Flowers: Life beyond Widowhood
By Alice Grossman Daniels; Fithian Press (1996).
Lively and candid, a warm collection of essays. Has both humor and heart.

Loss and Found: How We Survived the Loss of a Young Spouse
By Gary Young and Kathy Young; Calabash Press (2001).
Written by young widowed people, out of their own experiences of loss and then creating a blended family of seven.

The Widowed Self: the Older Woman’s Journey through Widowhood
By Deborah Kestin Van Den Hoonaard; Wilfrid Laurier University Press (2000).
Writer is a professor of Gerontology. She uses an autobiographical technique to present both a scholarly and narrative commentary on a widowed woman’s relationships.

Surviving Widowhood
By Esther Goshen-Gottstein; Gefen Books (2002).
An honest, exquisitely written, personal account of emerging from darkness to light.



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