No more food police!
"Should you be eating that?"
"Shouldn't you be exercising more?"
"Shouldn't you weigh a little less?"
These are some of the worst things well-meaning people can say to someone who has diabetes. Such statements can hurt and cause rebellion.
It's the same as anything else in life; people don't like being told what to do. Instead be positive and ask them what they want and need to be successful.
Show your support by following through with statements like these:
- "What can I cook that would work well for you?"
- "Do you need help finding time to exercise? What can I do to help? How about if we all exercise together (as a family, group of friends, etc.) a couple of times a week?"
- "What's the hardest thing about having diabetes? How can I help?"
The more loved ones understand about diabetes, the more helpful and appropriate they can be.
If you have diabetes and feel like your family members and friends tend to nag rather than support you in managing your disease, share this article with them. A willingness to calmly explain your feelings and answer questions about your situation may help, too.
If you care about someone with diabetes, ask yourself whether you're as helpful as you mean to be, then speak with your loved one about it. Learn more about diabetes and consider talking with a diabetes educator, doctor or other health care provider about how you can truly help.
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Source: Health Online, Inc.; Diabetes eMagazine, winter 2003/2004
First published: 11/09/2000
Last updated: 05/10/2010
Reviewed by: Mary Frederick, RN, MS, CDE, diabetes program manager, Allina Medical Clinic - Diabetes Education; Dawn McCarter, RN, BSN, CDE, diabetes program coordinator, Allina Medical Clinic - Diabetes Education